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Congratulations and welcome to friends, family and others who have found something of interest in my blog. The reason that I have created this blog is to share some of my experiences regarding my own journey of writing and publishing my autobiography. I am really excited and motivated about this whole process. I hope that what I write about is interesting to you and thank you for your encouragement and support.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Two worlds apart

Hi everyone.  Welcome back I know that it has been a week since I last posted anything and I have done this on purpose, so that as many people who want to follow this link and blog will get a chance to add it to their favorites and get on board early.  http://joymakepeace.blogspot.com/ 

The other thing you can do is click on this RSS feed icon or next to the above URL which means you will be regularly updated when I add a new post. 

So far I have had nearly 1000 hits on this page, which I think is just amazing.  The majority of viewers are from Australia, but there have been viewers as far and wide as the United States of America, Alaska, Philippines and Germany. I am overwhelmed with everyone’s feedback and have been completely reassured that what I am doing is not just for my own benefit, but is to be shared with so many other interested people who have similar stories and feel a deep connection with the information that I am sharing.  

There are also readers who are quite new to this whole topic and are thoroughly enjoying my “openness”.  I may live to regret this decision, but my life as an Aboriginal person has often been under the microscope, so I don’t feel concerned by this, in fact I am used to it. For the past week I have been trying to work out what to share and I think that the time has come to introduce you to some of the members of my families.  I say families because as you are now aware there are two of them and I love them both dearly.  I therefore live in two worlds and I write in great depth about the challenges of this in my book, “Finding the joy within”. 
I have just taken an except from one of the chapters in my book to try and give you a taste of what is to come.

“Ya don’t sound like a Nunga and ya don’t you act like a Nunga?”  I must admit, I can’t even begin to remember what I said or did to respond to that question, but I sure know that it was a turning point in my early life in which every ounce of knowledge about who I was, was questioned by this one mans hurtful comments.  I went home that night and was absolutely boiling with rage. Rage at him, rage at myself, rage at my birth mother, rage at my adoptive family, rage at the Government and rage at society, both black and white. 

This experience really made me take a look at myself and see for the first time that yes I was different and yes I probably never will fit into the mould of what most people think an Aboriginal person looks and sounds like.  But you know the flip side of this situation is that non-Aboriginal people don’t accept me or think of me as Aboriginal either.  Nearly every time I go to the hairdressers you can guarantee that they will ask me, “I hope you don’t mind me asking, but what nationality are you?”   When I proudly tell them the truth “I’m Aboriginal” they say, “Oh, but you don’t look Aboriginal”.  They say it like it’s a compliment and that I’m one of the lucky ones that could get away with being mistaken as Indian, Sri Lankan or from some other foreign cultural background.  I hated it and hated that I didn’t have the right words to put them back in their place.  In the past it was an ongoing dilemma that I was faced with and one that found me feeling as though I was trapped between two worlds.  One in which I felt as though I didn’t belong in either world.  Even though in my heart I felt Aboriginal, I continually felt as though I needed to justify myself to both black and white people.

I would now like to introduce you to some of my family member, both black and white.

Makepeace family


Mum - Audrey

Audrey – is my mum and she is now 70 years old.  She is my #1 fan.  She has always been there for me and has always encouraged me, no matter what I decided to do.  I love her dearly and thank her for everything she has ever done for me.  

Kate – is my eldest sister.  She is 14 years older than me.  She moved out of home to attend boarding school when I was still very young.  She is a real lady and the elegant one of the family.

Fenwick – is my big brother.  He is 12 years older than me.  He lived at home for about the first 4 years of my life and then moved out.  He is a fantastic and talented artist who also has a great story waiting to be told.  He always tells me he will be rich and famous one day and even though he says it jokingly I truly believe one day he will achieve his dream.
Robert my brother and my great nephew Billy

Robert – is the brother that I grew up and spend the most time with.  He is 6 years older than me and I was his shadow.  He is very accident prone and has a very strange sense of humour.

West family

Mick my older brother
Mick – is one of my older brothers in the West family.  He grew up with Bob in country NSW.  I only met Mick in 2001 and from what I can tell he is a man of few words.   We continue to try and stay in touch.

Bob my brother and me

Bob – is Micks younger brother and my older brother.  Bob and I met in 1999 and we seemed to instantly click.  He too is casual in his approach to life and he always makes sure that I’m doing OK. 

Beverley - is my big sister.  She is like my soul sister.  We were definitely carved from the same rock.  We have the same taste in clothes and we have similar astrological beliefs.  

The following movie trailer captures some of the humour around the fact that I am black, but sometimes living in two worlds can be very challenging.
“See no evil, hear no evil” – Movie with Richard Pryor

Until next time. 

Joy  :) 


  1. Anonymous wrote:
    I like your blog. Well done and it is a bit of a good read. Wishing you all the best.

    Anonymous wrote:
    I have just read your journey and absolutely love it, your story even took me back to all the emotions that came up for me while I was working on my healing journey and will still always be working on this healing journey and to think about that anger, fear, and unsettled life that came about after having your first child and yet these feelings are not about the child but something inside is (I'll put it this way, because unsure how to say it) rearing it's ugly head, it is strange that at the time you feel alone with all this happening, yet when I read your journey it tells me we are not alone because the journey is familiar for us. I will be looking forward to reading more about your journey and I might even be encouraged to put pen to paper and start on mine.

    Doug wrote:
    Hey Joy - Good on you!! - It was really nice reading about you and your family and very helpful not only for Women but Aboriginal Men too - I look forward to reading more.

    Rob wrote:
    That’s great Joy, thank you for including me on the list. The blog is great.

    Heidi wrote:
    This is amazing – thankyou for sharing your journey!! I will be following!

    Jasmine wrote:
    "I celebrate you!...you are too deadly in more ways than I can say!"

    Anonymous wrote:
    Huge congratulations on your commitment to writing your novel. You are an inspiration, thank you for having the courage to share your inner most thoughts with the rest of the world! Keep up the good work, and please know your writings and your life inspires and encourages me to do more and to be vulnerable. Thanks for making a difference in my life! Blessings and inspiration to you.

    Natalie wrote:
    Joy, love your work, love you, and yes our stories need to be told, gotta be brave and strong to do it, and you're doing it!!!"

  2. I extremely enjoy reading your blog's! You have a natural flare with writing which captures your audience & has made me become on of your fans! Look forward to your next blog :) You have done a wonderful job.

  3. Thank you for choosing to follow my blog. I am thrilled that you are enjoying it. Stay posted! :)