Welcome to my blog

Congratulations and welcome to friends, family and others who have found something of interest in my blog. The reason that I have created this blog is to share some of my experiences regarding my own journey of writing and publishing my autobiography. I am really excited and motivated about this whole process. I hope that what I write about is interesting to you and thank you for your encouragement and support.

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Where in the world have you been?

Oh my goodness, it's been way too long between catch-ups. I've just realised that it's actually nearly been a year since my last post on here.  So I thought it's time to let everyone know where in the world I've been.  I even missed my annual nutshell moments, so yes I apologise for my slackness. 

So what has been happening for the past couple of years. Well I've basically been licking my wounds for the past 2 years and know that it's time to dig myself out of the trench that I've found myself in and it's time to shine once again.

It's been 2 years since my mum passed away and since then a lot of changes have occurred in my life.  Looking back I can see that 2012 was the most trying year I've yet seen, but it has definitely been onwards and upwards since then.  I turned 40, had a big reunion with old friends, continued to do some art work, started a new facebook page and concentrated on my business Change of Art, Mind and Body.

By 2013 I was really ready for change.  So by April 2013, I left my secure long-term permanent position and ventured out into the supposedly unsafe seas of society.  I started working part-time in schools, which freed up some time for me to work in  my own home-based holistic healing business. Having this freedom was really what my soul needed at the time and due to my openness and thirst for knowledge and healing I attracted many other like minded individuals that helped me to take this new journey together. I managed to travel on an adventure with my new found soul sisters to Melbourne "You Can Do It" conference which delivered an amazing array of guest speakers and provided an an immeasurable shift in energy.   

From this moment I spring boarded into the decision to travel around Australia with my once again strengthen little family.  So we hooked up the caravan, took along the cats and dog and rented the house out and off we set, planning to never return to Adelaide.  Well some of that did occur, but since indeed have returned to Adelaide, but not as the same people who had originally left.  I can not begin to capture the best time that we had while travelling.  We were in actual fact only gone for 10 weeks, but it did feel like a life time.  We traveled from Adelaide, Uluru, Kings Canyon, Alice Springs, Mount Isa, Townsville, Mackay, Bundaburg, Brisbane, Newcastle, Sydney and back to Adelaide.  There are just too many photo's to share, but it was a magical time and I once again grew immensely from this experience.

So 2014 began and I gained another part-time position back in my children's school and loved every minute of it.  I was in my element working one-on-one with young Aboriginal students teaching them how to strengthen their reading skills. I later got to work with another student who had been disengaged from school.  I loved this relationship building too.  From the 2nd half of the year I once again stumbled across an opportunity to change directions again and I actually was encouraged to finally after 20 years register as a teacher and work as a counsellor in a school.  I did do this and it was very rewarding.   

I've now found myself taking a slightly different direction and am about to start working part-time in yet another area that is somewhat new to me.  I'm excited and apprehensive, but know that I fully trust in life and the direction that it, without question is safely guiding me.  

Since I have left the safe harbours, I know within myself that I have continuously been challenged by circumstances that are beyond my control and that is really what I've had to come to realise.  We believe that if we set goals and plan and put things into place that it will all work out just as we visualised.  What I've actually learned from experience is that I am not truly the captain of this ship, I am really just another sailor that is going along for the ride.  Along the way the sea's have been rough at times but it's how I've managed to ride the waves that has been what the experience has ultimately taught me.  

So the point of all this jibber jabber is that just keep doing what your doing.  Yes put your plans into place loosely, but don't get disappointed if everything doesn't work out exactly as you've thought they would.  Be flexible, go with the flow and know that there is truly a force beyond your control that has your back and won't let you down, as long as your let go of your expectations and learn from the lessons that are purposely been delivered directly to your doorstep.

And ultimately "Do what makes you happy!"

So until next time.  Hopefully before 2 more years have passed.  Get out and travel the world, you'll be nicely surprised at what you will find.

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Rain and Thunder storm Relaxation. Relax mind + body meditate to the rai...

Good Evening Everyone,

Sorry for the late posting.  Tonight I thought that we’d have a rest from the hard yakka.  So because I’m a Pisces and I love the rain, I thought I’d share this You Tube video with you all.  I find it so relaxing and thought you might too.

So put your feet up and your earplugs in and maybe even wrap up in a blanket, so you don’t get cold and wash away the worries of the day.

Now as I was listening to the rain falling, I was occasionally watching the odd leaf falling here and there.  I was visualising the rain, washing my soul, cleansing my spirit.  Washing away my worries and then filling me back up with clean rich revitalising crystal clear water. 

To you the rain might represent the tears that you have shed or the tears that are yet to come.  Release them and feel safe knowing that at the same time you are being renewed.  Let them flow like a river, carrying with it broken promises and withheld feelings of grief and loss. 

If you want to take it a step further you can say out loud the below statement.  Just insert your name and then the name of someone that you would like to either forgive or release from your life.

I _______________, forgive you __________________ for ___________________. 
I wish you had done ________________________, but you didn't and I now set you free.  (Source:  Louise Hay)

Continue to listen to the rain.  Let it wash away those last bits of lingering emotions.  Then finally let it refill your spirit.  Let it pour in much strength and love and compassion and healing with every single drop.  Then know in your heart you are strong and filled with much love that is very replenishing. 

And remember this!  American Indian’s are renown for their rain dances.  When asked about the secret of their rain dance.  They said there’s no secret, we just keep dancing until it rains.  So there my friends you have one of life’s deepest secrets!  Keep on dancing.

Until next time.  Stay deadly!

Monday, June 17, 2013

What a relief to release

Have you ever been on a roller coaster ride and been hanging on for grim death?

I find it amusing that some people actually get a kick out of repeatedly doing this to themselves.  Putting themselves in this predicament must give them pleasure after the momentary pain.  When you seriously think about it, I don’t know anyone who openly invites pain on a daily basis into their lives.  Why would they? 

Yet sometimes life is just like this roller coaster and we grab hold of something, anything to try and find some stable ground.  Sometimes we hang on longer than is required and even though the ride has stopped we often still haven’t released our grasp.

I specifically didn't say “let go” because to use the term suggests that it was something that was ours, therefore we need to hold on to it.  When in fact nothing in this world is ours.  We are just passing through it, as is everyone else and in fact every thing else too. 

Yes we love to gather things like bower-birds, attracted to bright colours and sparkling things that make us feel warm and fuzzy and happy.  But do they really bring you the pleasure that you imagined would occur in your fantasy world.  When in reality you have to find a place to house them, you have to dust them, clean them, move them, shine them and polish them up again when they no longer sparkle. 

They no longer bring the pleasure that once enticed you to bring them home to display like prized possession on your mantle piece.  Now you feel so attached that you can’t release them.  It’s like they have become part of you and help you distinguish who you are.  Without them you are nothing.  But is this really the truth?  Of course not, because if you finally decided that you wanted to release them then you could do just that, filled with love.  If you remind yourself that they were never yours and you were never their owner then you would happily release them to travel the next part of the journey. 

The minute you realize what a relief it is to release, you will no longer feel the need to continually collect, possess and obsess.   

So give yourself a gift and release what you no longer need in your life and set yourself free. 

If you need help to move forward in your life drop by  Change of Art, Mind and Body today, were there's "Healing for every body".

Until next time, stay deadly!  :)

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Getting back on the horse!

If you've ever ridden a horse before, then I’ll guarantee that you've also fallen off.  How many of you feel as though life has bucked you off some times and you've just not known how to get back on the horse?

Well I guess that’s why it’s taken me a while to get back to writing my blog posts.  So this is me saying up front to you, I'm sorry.  I'm seeking your forgiveness and hoping that this is the start of something new and inspiring once again.  Hopefully we can all ride off into the sunset together.

So without playing my violin too much, I just wanted to acknowledge that yes life does get busy, stuff happens and sometimes no matter how positive you want to feel, sometimes nothing seems to be able to bring you back to that space you were, before you fell off the horse.

But who’s to say taking a break from life (or a task in life) is a good thing or a bad thing.  Only you know within yourself what you can manage and cope with and what needs to give way, so that you can keep travelling along the path of life.

Now even though when you’re sitting high up in the saddle and you are moving forward, as soon as you hit the ground, yes the world does stop for a moment.  Maybe things aren't moving as fast as you are used to or maybe you can’t get to where you want to go as fast as you’d planned, but the one thing for sure, is that life does still go on.

So next time your world seems to grind to a halt, instead of saying giddy up, maybe it’s time to rein it in and slow from a canter to a trot and then to a steady walking pace. 

You'll know when you're ready to get back on the horse and if not, I'm sure something in life will undoubtedly spur you on once again. 

To find out what I've been doing lately check this out  Change of Art, Mind and Body 

Stay deadly!  

Friday, February 17, 2012

In memory of my beautiful mum ~ Audrey Orwin

Yesterday we laid to rest my beautiful mum Audrey Orwin.  Today's post is just to try and capture and share some of the memories I have of mum and to honour her life.  

~ Eulogy ~
Audrey Orwin was born in 1940 in Maidstone, Kent, England to parents  Phillis & Herbert Collison.

Audrey was the 2nd eldest of 5 children.  Ken, Maureen, Rosemary and Jean.

Audrey was the proud, loving and devoted mother of 4 children, Katherine (Kate), Fenwick, Robert and Joy. 

Audrey was the best Nana in the world to Suzanne, Belinda, Kristy, Teneill, Narelle, Jordan, Jai and Violet and also a special Nana Audrey to Hunter. 

Audrey has 3 great-grandchildren whom she loved very dearly Lily-Rose, Billy and Ruby.

Audrey also always remembered & loved her interstate grandchildren especially on every birthday Alicia, Benjamin, Damien and Sarah and Aiden.

To Audrey, family was her life and gave her a purpose to live.  Audrey was never happier than when caring for someone else.  Audrey would always put others needs before her own and always only wanted to best for her children.

Audrey was the loving wife of Cecil and is now finally back in the arms of her life partner and best beloved, forever together.

Audrey was never one to have too many friends, but those that she did have all know that they were near and dear to her heart and many quality life time friendships were born. 

Audrey’s long time friends Janice and Bert, Annette and Vicki and Natasha, we know will miss Audrey immensely.

Audrey loved to travel she especially loved exploring much of Australia.  Audrey didn’t mind how she traveled but often preferred a long inter-state train ride, rather than a plane so as to happily take in the countryside.

Even though Audrey had dedicated her life to raising a family and did not get paid to do so, she was the hardest worker we’ve all known.  Audrey would always work until the job was done and then some more. 

Audrey was a strong willed, strong minded and at many times stubborn woman who would never take no for an answer.  When Audrey set her mind to a task it wasn’t a matter of if it would be done but more like when. 

As you would all know Audrey was a very talented individual in the area of knitting and crocheting and we have all worn many a warm wooly jumper or socks made with pure love from Audrey. 

In her younger years Audrey played softball and netball.  However later in life Audrey’s mad love of cricket, tennis, soccer, rugby & AFL would often end up in Audrey literally being tangled up in knots on the couch watching a nail biting match. 

Over the years Audrey donated many volunteer hours to the Lyell McEwin Hospital, particularly in the Childrens Creche, which is where her heart and soul felt most at home.  She loved this place of acceptance and will undoubtedly be sadly missed by the staff and volunteers. 

Audrey has never been a spend thrift, but one thing we know she could never walk past was a new “Sea horse” to add to her collection.  Often taking pride of place in her display cabinets and fridge door.

We all know that Audrey’s favorite colour was blue and her grandson Jordan recently painted her a dot painting, which he named the “River of Dreams”.  Audrey cherished this painting and found much meaning and peace in it. 

Audrey never loved the kitchen, but she was well renowned for her original unlike-any- other “Bread puddings”.  Her secret ingredient was without doubt LOVE!

Audrey had a love for a few things as mentioned, but most of all Audrey loved to talk….and talk…..and talk…..and talk some more.  As frustrating as it was at the time, I’m sure we will all miss her voice and daily tales.  Most of all we will miss her listening to us & being right by our sides in our times of need.  

Audrey has beyond doubt impacted on each and every one of our lives, some in a small way, but most in a way that will be hard to fill the gap.  Her love was as deep as an ocean and as tall as a mountain and all encompassing.   She will be sadly missed, but forever remembered and always loved. 

To the most Special lady, Mother, Nana and one-of-a-kind Friend in the world, travel safe on this new journey, til we met again.  Forever in our hearts!

~ Some of mum's favourite songs ~

Mario Lanza ~ Ava Maria

Nat King Cole ~ Unforgettable

Seekers ~ I'll never find another you

Love you Mum forever more. Travel well!  

Until we meet again.  xoxo

Friday, January 20, 2012

Southerly Journal articles

A handful of Aboriginal authors, including myself have recently been published in the Southerly Journal.  Check out this fantastic edition at  http://southerlyjournal.com.au/2012/01/15/a-handful-of-sand-words-to-the-frontline/ .  The two articles that I have written are about Reflecting on Addictions and Learned Helplessness; Australia's Black History. 

Until next time.  Enjoy!  :)

Friday, December 30, 2011

Joy's 2011 Life Lessons in a Nutshell

Joy's 2011 Life Lessons in a Nutshell!

Everyone is given a second chance!

Everyone needs a good girlfriend!

No matter what, never ever quit!

Good things come to those who wait!

Art heals the heart!

Follow your dreams!

Laughter is the best medicine!

Always have a team spirit!

Give yourself permission for regular time-out!

Life is one big circle (Life-death-life)

Never miss the opportunity to catch up with family before it's too late!

Practice what you preach!

Life goes on!

Patience is a virtue!

There's always hope!

Art is in the eye of the beholder!

Let go of the past to heal the future!

Drugs and alcohol don't fool your problems, they only fuel them!

Culture heals!

Overcome your fears and do it anyway!

Disappointments are your choice!

Our bodies are the vehicles for our souls, so keep them well tuned!

Feed your soul regularly!

No excuses!

Time flys when you're having fun!

Hard work always gets noticed and rewarded!

To have a few close friends is better than a room full of strangers!

Quality time counts!

Give without expecting a return!

Love unconditionally!

Karma is inevitable!

Everyone needs to know where they come from!

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree!

Write straight from the heart!

Every cloud has a silver lining!

It's never as bad as you expect!

Don't make mountains out of mole hills!

Dreams really do come true!

God hears every prayer!

With every fall we must rise!

Giving is better than receiving!

Do something with the spiritual gifts you have been given.

What you do now sets the foundations for the future!

You will always reap what you sow!

Alcohol doesn't make a party... you do!

Never rely on other's to complete you!

There's always an option and choice!

There's always plenty of opportunity to learn!

If you don't succeed the first time, try, try and try again!

The seeds of self-confidence are planted by parents!

Money doesn't buy love or happiness!

Memories are made every minute ~ remember that!

Nothing can not be overcome once you make a decision!

Listen to life's whispers!

Life is too short!

Appreciate what you do have not what you don't have!

Everyone has a purpose in life!  What's yours?

Our bodies know how to heal themselves, they just need the right ingredients!

Big is not always best!

Gratitude is the attitude!

Disappointment makes victory all that much better!

So until the new year,  Joy!  :)