What a relief to release

Have you ever been on a roller coaster ride and been hanging on for grim death?

I find it amusing that some people actually get a kick out of repeatedly doing this to themselves.  Putting themselves in this predicament must give them pleasure after the momentary pain.  When you seriously think about it, I don’t know anyone who openly invites pain on a daily basis into their lives.  Why would they? 

Yet sometimes life is just like this roller coaster and we grab hold of something, anything to try and find some stable ground.  Sometimes we hang on longer than is required and even though the ride has stopped we often still haven’t released our grasp.

I specifically didn't say “let go” because to use the term suggests that it was something that was ours, therefore we need to hold on to it.  When in fact nothing in this world is ours.  We are just passing through it, as is everyone else and in fact every thing else too. 

Yes we love to gather things like bower-birds, attracted to bright colours and sparkling things that make us feel warm and fuzzy and happy.  But do they really bring you the pleasure that you imagined would occur in your fantasy world.  When in reality you have to find a place to house them, you have to dust them, clean them, move them, shine them and polish them up again when they no longer sparkle. 

They no longer bring the pleasure that once enticed you to bring them home to display like prized possession on your mantle piece.  Now you feel so attached that you can’t release them.  It’s like they have become part of you and help you distinguish who you are.  Without them you are nothing.  But is this really the truth?  Of course not, because if you finally decided that you wanted to release them then you could do just that, filled with love.  If you remind yourself that they were never yours and you were never their owner then you would happily release them to travel the next part of the journey. 

The minute you realize what a relief it is to release, you will no longer feel the need to continually collect, possess and obsess.   

So give yourself a gift and release what you no longer need in your life and set yourself free. 

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Until next time, stay deadly!  :)

The roles we play

How often does what you think, say and do, turn out to be the same?

For me, I know that isn’t very often.

I wish it happened more often because I really do want to be someone that walks the walk and talks the talk.  Though sometimes, no matter how hard you try it just doesn’t seem to match up!

Why is this?

Why can’t I just be the one consistent person all the time?  Why can’t I always be the same person that I really truly love? 

Often our lives are so full of things to do, places to be and people to see that we that we just don’t realise that our life has just become a big masquerade.   Full of drama and acting and masks that we wear.

Now sometimes it feels nice and safe to be able to hide behind a mask and keep the world at bay.  From behind our mask a multitude of excuses LIE.

We hide our shame, our pain, our hurts, our grief, our loss, our guilt, our fear, our anger, our bitterness and our resentment.    

Unfortunately, this can only mask the pain for a short period.  Sometimes instead of hiding behind all of our masks, we need to actually FACE the world.

So next time you look in the mirror, who do you want to see looking back at you?

Check out the following u-tube clip, which is a music clip called "Suddenly I see"  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBHzFb0toqc

Releasing the anger and healing the pain

Hi Everyone.  What a glorious day and weather we had.  I hope you all took advantage and made the most of it.  Today I thought that I'd cover a bit about the biggest emotional stumbling block that I had in my life.  At the time I don't think that I actually knew what it was.  All I knew was the effects that it was having on my life.  Right through my teenage years I felt fine and my life was relatively smooth sailing.  I was just setting out on my journey of finding out more about who I was and where I was from - my identity.

When my son Jordan was born my life literally turned upside down.  You can read about this in full detail in my book and it certainly is eye opening, especially for new mum's.  I spent the next 5 years trying to work through all of those emotions, which really were not the result of Jordan being born, but they certainly were triggered when Jordan was born.  I know I felt so angry with the whole world.  I was full of hate and I blamed the government for removing me from my birth family and I was unconsciously grieving for the loss of my birth mother. 

Joan West - my birth-mother

I was hurting and had found no way of safely healing the pain.  So I turned the pain, anger, resentment and bitterness inwards and did what so many of us do, which is to punish and hurt ourselves.  Despite being loved, I choose to suffer from days of depression and I couldn't see any hope in the future.  It wasn't until I pushed everyone close to me out of my life that I came to the point of realizing that I needed to let go of the anger and unresolved grief and loss that I was feeling.  I knew that I had to go back and heal the past before I could even think about the future.  It was after much self-healing through counseling, self-development and personal growth work that I now can live fully in the present moment.

I found this lovely link about "Forgiveness and the freedom of letting go"  it's worth the time having a look.  

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3D4VMZb8wLY&feature=related

Peace and love 


Joy  :)